It’s that dreaded day again. Valentine’s Day. AKA the day that all the lovebirds go on fancy, romantic dates, and us single folk chill at home and eat unreasonable amounts of sweets.
At least, that’s what I did in years past. Truth bomb: I’ve never had a date on Valentine’s Day. I used to hide that fact, but I’m OK with it now. Years ago, absolutely not. Two years ago I ate so many chocolate-covered cherries that I basically blacked out. And then I got the worst migraine of my life, and I stopped eating chocolate. Last year I just pouted. In the past, I’ve worn all black. I’ve worn red. I’ve cried. I’ve gone out with other single girl friends. I’ve holed up in my room. I’ve basically done it all when it comes to coping with Valentine’s Day as a single lady.
So that’s why it’s going to be different this year. No feeling sorry for myself, no hating men, no overindulging in candies, none of that.
This year, I’m just focusing on me. And what I love about my life. And the wonderful, lovely people that are in it. And the One who loves me unconditionally.
One of my favorite TV shows, Parks and Recreation, kind of perfectly sums up what the philosophy of my day will be.
Over the years, I’ve been really blessed with some phenomenal friends who have kept me going when I was in the pits. Every year, three college friends (Kalyn, Brenna and Melissa) have sent me a Valentine’s Day card. (They are awesome and send them for other holidays, too, but the Valentine’s Day ones are my favorites.) I’ve had married friends sit me down and tell me to embrace where I am in life now and not waste it (Giana and Eunice, I’m specifically grateful for you two). My dad sent me balloons and sweets when I was in college. My mom and sister have listened to me whine and cry. And many others.
These are the people who helped me through the dark times. Now I’m not afraid of tomorrow. I’ll hit the gym and celebrate being a strong woman. I’ll possibly allow myself to have a treat (calorie counting, ya know). So happy Valentine’s/Galentine’s Day, all! If you are in a couple, enjoy it! Really, I truly mean that. If you’re single, I know it’s not easy, but find something to enjoy about the day. It’s just another day, after all.